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| Normal, but
most often not welcome, we can help you with our special approach
to relationship counseling and couples counseling.
Perhaps you are struggling with the shock of finding out about your partner's extramarital affairs (what is an affair or what defines adultery? — see below). Perhaps you are seeking to avoid relationship problems with pre-marriage counseling. Maybe you want better communication, more passion, joy and intimacy. Often, a long term partnership starts to feel "old," "boring," and "routine." |
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| We wake up one
day and wonder where the romance went and what happened to the person "I
fell in love with" way back when. Struggling with
relationship problems is normal and human. Given how important we all
feel relationships are, of course we want them to be the best. The
art of building a satisfying relationship is something you can learn.
It does not come automatically out of the blue. You may need relationship
counseling to help you on your way.
RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING | COUPLES COUNSELING | PRE-MARRIAGE COUNSELING Our specialty is helping people deepen and sustain their most important relationships. In addition to our marriage counseling retreats we are both in private practice and work individually and together, with couples and individuals all over the country — supporting them to increase connection, heal from extramarital affairs, resolve relationship problems, and, often, for new couples, begin life together with skill, and understanding about how a good relationship really works. We often do couples counseling, as well as individual counseling on the phone or by skype, and people who live in our area (southern Colorado) come to our offices for face-to-face appointments. MANY PEOPLE SUCCESSFULLY WORK THROUGH THEIR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS Two Relationship Problems About Which Many Couples Want Information We have supported hundreds of couples and individuals; some of them have focused upon: 1. Extramarital Affairs & Adultery Because this is a relationship problem many couples either encounter in a lifetime together, or are afraid of, we address this specifically. What is an extramarital affair (often referred to as adultery)? Here are some of our thoughts: Must an extramarital affair be sexual? Does it only include sexual intercourse? What about a kiss? Meeting for a golf game? Facebook or texting regularly? What about a satisfying deep friendship in the workplace or over the Internet? Is this adultery? The definition of an extramarital affair, is, in the end, your definition. What matters most is what matters to you. However, many people in our culture would probably feel betrayed by a partner who had intercourse with a third person, whether during a one night stand or as part of a long term emotional entanglement. Many would also feel betrayed and threatened, by other intimate behaviors — a hug, or the sending of a dozen roses. A breach of trust depends entirely on what you as a couple have agreed to — or imagined you agreed to. Healing from an extramarital affair is a journey. There are very specific steps to recovery. But there are many resources, and couples do recover. Both partners need to be willing to do the work necessary. One of our favorite resources is the book, AFTER THE AFFAIR by Janis A. Spring, Ph.D. Please call us to discuss your healing journey from adultery or an extramarital affair. We can help you get started right now, phone: Kate: 970-259-3424 or Joel: 970-259-7585. 2. PRE MARRIAGE COUNSELING What an amazing time falling in love is. A time of high energy, fun, wonderful love making, shared activities, planning a life together. What new couple isn't enthralled by the sense that all is well, and all will always be well. A long term relationship always has its relationship problems as well as strengths. A couple is made up of two different people, and as you live together, diving deeply into sharing space, negotiating needs, finding your togetherness as well as your individuality, you will naturally need some skills to stay connected and loving through your normal growing process. Pre-marriage counseling is a terrific way to begin a life journey together. Learn the secrets of a successful relationship right away; learn communication skills to resolve relationship problems without the typical fighting and wounding so many couples encounter. Learn to build a positive 'bank account' of safety, bonding, and trust so during stressful times, you'll stay connected and supportive. Over the years we have facilitated many new couples in exploring what a long-term relationship really means. Our pre-marriage counseling retreats, curriculum, and pre marriage counseling sessions have guided these folks to their wedding day and beyond. In fact, we have actually officiated the ceremonies of many of our pre-marriage counseling couples! EMAIL OR CALL US |
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