| We wake up one
day and wonder where the romance went and what happened to the person "I
fell in love with" way back when. Struggling with
relationship problems is normal and human. Given how important we all
feel relationships are, of course we want them to be the best. The
art of building a satisfying relationship is something you can learn.
It does not come automatically out of the blue. You may need relationship
counseling to help you on your way.
RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING | COUPLES COUNSELING
| PRE-MARRIAGE COUNSELING
Our specialty is helping people deepen and sustain their most important
relationships. In addition to our marriage
counseling retreats we
are both in private practice and work individually and together,
with couples and individuals all over the country — supporting them
to increase connection, heal from extramarital affairs, resolve relationship
problems, and, often, for new couples, begin life together with skill,
and understanding about how a good relationship really works.
We often do couples counseling, as well as individual counseling
on the phone or by skype, and people who live in our area (southern
Colorado) come to our offices for face-to-face appointments.
MANY PEOPLE SUCCESSFULLY WORK THROUGH THEIR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
Two Relationship Problems About Which Many
Couples Want Information
We
have supported hundreds of couples and individuals; some of them
have focused upon:
1. Extramarital Affairs & Adultery
Because this is a relationship problem many couples either encounter
in a lifetime together, or are afraid of, we address this specifically.
What is an extramarital affair (often referred to as adultery)?
Here are some of our thoughts: Must an extramarital affair be sexual?
Does it only include sexual intercourse? What about a kiss? Meeting
for a golf game? Facebook or texting regularly? What about a
satisfying deep friendship in the workplace or over the Internet?
Is this adultery?
The definition of an extramarital affair, is, in the
end, your definition. What matters most is what matters to you. However,
many people in our culture would probably feel betrayed by a partner
who had intercourse with a third person, whether during a one night
stand or as part of a long term emotional entanglement. Many would
also feel betrayed and threatened, by other intimate behaviors — a
hug, or the sending of a dozen roses. A breach of trust depends entirely
on what you as a couple have agreed to — or imagined you agreed
to.
Healing from an extramarital affair is a journey. There
are very specific steps to recovery. But there are many resources,
and couples do recover. Both partners need to be willing to do the
work necessary. One of our favorite resources is the book, AFTER
THE AFFAIR by Janis A. Spring, Ph.D. Please call us to discuss your
healing journey from adultery or an extramarital affair. We can help
you get started right now, phone: Kate: 970-259-3424 or Joel:
970-259-7585.
2. PRE MARRIAGE COUNSELING
What an amazing time falling in love is. A time of
high energy, fun, wonderful love making, shared activities, planning
a life together. What new couple isn't enthralled by the sense that
all is well, and all will always be well.
A long term relationship always has its relationship
problems as well as strengths. A couple is made up of two different
people, and as you live together, diving deeply into sharing space,
negotiating needs, finding your togetherness as well as your individuality,
you will naturally need some skills to stay connected and loving
through your normal growing process.
Pre-marriage counseling is a terrific way to begin
a life journey together. Learn the secrets of a successful relationship
right away; learn communication skills to resolve relationship problems
without the typical fighting and wounding so many couples encounter.
Learn to build a positive 'bank account' of safety, bonding, and
trust so during stressful times, you'll stay connected and supportive.
Over the years we have facilitated many new couples
in exploring what a long-term relationship really means. Our pre-marriage
counseling retreats, curriculum, and pre marriage counseling sessions
have guided these folks to their wedding day and beyond. In fact,
we have actually officiated the ceremonies of many of our pre-marriage
counseling couples!
EMAIL OR CALL US
We're happy to chat with you about your relationship counseling
needs and how we can help.
Joel@consciousrelationships.com or 970-259-7585
Kate@consciousrelationships.com or 970-259-3424 |