Roommates or Intimate Partners?
There are some times when our long-term relationship flattens and nearly dies. If you notice yourself saying something like “we could be roommates” and long for the days when you felt more emotionally connected, more intimate, and more sexually attracted to one another, answer these questions YES or NO and find out where you are on the continuum between a passionate connected relationship and a relationship of two people simply sharing a living space with little intimacy and satisfaction.
Do you feel close physically, mentally and emotionally?
Do you have a satisfying sex life?
Do you share common interests?
Do you still have fun together?
Do you share opinions, disagree, and make shared decisions?
Do you have deep meaningful conversations together?
Do you have more fun with your partner than with your friends?
Do you like your partner now more than ever?
If finances weren’t a consideration would you be as likely to stay together?
Do you still care enough to argue, discuss and disagree over shared issues?
If social and business appearances didn’t matter, would you be as likely to stay together?
Do you have your most meaningful conversations with your partner rather than with your friends?
0-3 NOs You’re doing well.
4-7 NOs You’re probably beginning to wonder if you’re living like roommates
7-12 NOs You are living like roommates
You may have reached a crisis point in your marriage. There are some couples who make a conscious decision to stay together as roommates and aren’t interested, or willing to make the changes to discover one another again.
However if you would like to change this circumstance it is possible with some time, attention and care. There are reasons why you ended up living parallel lives. Sometimes life gets so busy, and raising children takes so much energy that there’s little left to nurture your partnership. Sometimes couples shut down to one another because they’ve gotten hurt along the way and been unable to heal the wound. Sometimes there are sexual problems and partners don’t know how to talk about them, understand each other and re-vitalize their sexual relationship. These are just a few of the dynamics that can lead a couple to “live like roommates” instead of romantic, intimate and passionate partners.
Our approach to helping you renew connection and intimacy includes:
- Finding out what led to the dampening of your connection and making sure you have tools so it doesn’t happen again.
- Educating you about how relationships work and what is needed to rediscover love, passion and intimacy.
- Teaching you communication skills for conversation, listening, and problem solving.
- Inviting you to experiment with new ways to connect: physically, emotionally, and sexually (when you feel ready for this).
- Helping you discover shared interests and avenues for fun, enjoyment, recreation, and daily living.
- Helping you to learn about yourself and grow into the partner you want to be.
We design your retreat to help you transform the issues that are causing pain, and help you make a plan to continue building connection and healing when you go home.
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Our private 3 or 4-day retreats serve one couple at time. Some of the top priorities that we address are: breaking through unresolved issues, extra-marital affairs, deepening communication, increasing sex and intimacy.
In our weekend couples workshops you will rejuvenate, refresh, and reawaken love, intimacy, communication, and laughter. You’ll learn and practice skills, and go home able to integrate them into your life together.
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