Inch by Inch....the Journey of Relationship
Falling in love is easy. It happens almost by accident. Building long-term love is no accident. For most of us it takes a whole lot of intentionality and the care that goes into building anything of lasting beauty. When someone undertakes a great journey, climbing Mt. Everest for example, there is a heck of a lot of forethought, preparation and training that goes into it. Just imagine the list you would come up with when considering what you'd need in order to create a mountain of love with your partner. You'd have to consider what would make them feel loved. If you don't know, you'd have to ask(imagine that!). Then you would go about the task of becoming that person, yes, making attempts to change your good self for the purpose of becoming a better lover. Is this really so different than conquering Everest?
Remember that folks don't succeed at that great task by themselves. They have guides to show them the best route. Probably a Sherpa or 2 to help lighten their load. They've invested in the best equipment they could afford and taken precautions for times when they might become weak, disoriented or feel like giving up. Even though they have prepared for the journey and read every book on how to survive it, success is not guaranteed. The effort and the experience is priceless though and learning a ton about oneself is guaranteed. Our good intentions and optimism, while very helpful, must be mixed in with a sizable helping of education and endless scoops of courage to face our own fears, limiting beliefs and vulnerabilities galore. Not to mention, a lighthearted sweetness to make the journey fun (excuse the mixing up of metaphors, but I dare you not to smile with this!)
Care to share with us 1 way you see your partner working to build long-term love? Hint: Send it on to them afterward.
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