Tending the Garden of Your Relationship
You can spend so much time finding out
what each and every plant in your garden needs to grow;
how much water, how much sun,
what specific nutrients will help it to thrive
Or your car, cycle or bike
The best lubricants and oils
Proper handling procedures
and optimal maintenance schedules
Imagine if you spent a similar amount of time and attention
thinking about what would make your beloved thrive.
They usually know what they need
and carry all those unmet needs around with them
Some folks even communicate their needs to their partner
But often as a frustration or demand
Sadly, others just expect that,
“If you loved me you’d know what I need”(and give it)
But what about your beloved?
What does she or he want/need/crave?
Read the Love Languages book
And have a great talk afterwards
Reflect together, without blame,
What’s been working and what hasn’t
Talk about desires and wishes
Clarify what is actually most wanted
Then, consider what you can commit to
And give each other that gift, for 21 days
It’s almost Valentine’s day anyway
Add some flowers or chocolates in for good measure
Our long-distance relationship counseling/coaching is a unique blend of education, skill building, and facilitating you to grow into the partner/person you would like to be in your relationships.
Our private 3-day retreats serve one couple at time. Some of the top priorities that we address are: breaking through unresolved issues, extra-marital affairs, deepening communication, increasing sex and intimacy.